You can’t change the nature of the beast…
There comes a time when people need to make decisions; decisions that may alter the course of their lives. Decisions are about doors: all you need to do is make up your mind about which one you are going to go through, usually without knowledge of what lies on the other side. It doesn’t matter what the decision is about: career, financial status, hobbies, personal life. The problem is that people often do not decide wisely and I am not referring to the decision itself; but to the options available. The most common error people make when deciding something is limiting their options; there is no need to pick a single option to a decision when you can possibly combine it with a second one. And yet, a lot of people still go for the single option. Why? “Because that’s what they’ve been taught”, one could argue; I won’t challenge it.
Recently I faced a life-changing decision; a dilemma of tremendous importance about my life or at least what I call “life”. It was complex and the circumstances under which I had to decide didn’t help at all. Yet it only took me a split-second to think it through and make the decision in the certainty that I was being honest with myself. I had two roads in front of me and I took the one less traveled by and that has made all the difference*. It’s a road full of responsibilities and sharp turns, a hectic and intense course. Yet having made my decision, a prudent and sane one, I feel lighter, better and more confident than ever. Great responsibility comes with great power but sometimes people have to claim this responsibility rather than simply waiting for it to be given to them.
Yes, I was missing all those sleepless nights! I was constantly being told that rest would rejuvenate my body but no one cared about the mind; nobody could understand how important it is to have something to live for. Physical exhaustion is irrelevant when the mind is running at 1,000 mph; the latter is stronger than the body and after a dozen years I can reassure you: using your mind to run takes you faster to your destination than your feet. Yes, what everyone else finds this tiresome, I find it energetic, boosting and, eventually, it takes me to another level. I’ve probably never been busier in my entire life. But I’ve never been happier. And that’s for sure.
You are your decisions, your choices. When the time for decisions comes, instead of thinking what to decide, imagine what you’d wish for – and that’s the difficult part. Once determined, you just have to do it. Become your choices, embrace them and let them consume you. A more beautiful person will emerge once you’re done.